3 Steps to Handling Adversity

I  have heard two sermon series on adversity lately.  I have also had my fair share of adversity in the last 12 weeks too.  To be honest, I have not always handled adversity well.   I am not proud to admit when I got married and my bridesmaid who was in charge of putting my makeup bag forgot to, it ate me up. I mean really ate me up! I was so mad on my entire honey moon about it and thought about it all the time.  Looking back I am sure it was about $20 worth of makeup but it also cost me a relationship that never repaired and I was distracted on my honeymoon!  How sad is that?

How we handle adversity is a key factor in our relationships and ultimately how we control our own emotions.

When someone or something creates conflict do you:

A. Believe someone or something has wronged you and until it is right you are going to be angry.

B. Believe the best in people and work to see how this adversity can improve your life and relationship.

I was a very answer “A” person for years.  I met so many wonderful women who seemed to have it all together.  As I got older I would watch how they handled adversity and learn what they did to return to that zen place of womanhood that seemed to elude my hot little head.

It cracks me up now when people say “Wow how did you say so calm and so nice in that situation?”   I have become Answer “B” women and I will share with you how.

  1. Adversity as perfectly acceptable fuel to success. When something comes up you have got to become a conflict master and dig in and look for what good can come from this tense situation.  What you learn and apply can really be fuel to success.
  2. I give the other person the best explanation for their behavior. I do not assume people are out to get me, I assume people are people.  Ron and I have a saying in our family.  When we both have the same information we often come to the same conclusion.  It may just take some time for me to learn more details or share more details but when you are looking for success in adversity you will often find it.
  3. Be loving at all times. My Bible teaches about loving people.  Love is the greatest characteristic you can have.  Love is patient, love is kind, it does not keep a record of wrong etc. (read 1 Cor 13 for more things love is and is not).   If you can master this one then you can handle so much more in your life.

Adversity is a strange teacher I have learned to work with.  I usually learn something about myself or learn about how to be better in the future. I am not asking for it to come knocking on my door but as a wife, mom and CEO it is going to. I had to make a choice to use it and not let it control me.  I think that can lead to heart attacks, substance abuse, depression and a host of many other life controlling issues.

I had to face adversity and decide would I use it as fire that consumes or fuel for success?  What will you do?

Are you tired of waking up at 3 am and thinking about how that old, so and so, made you mad.  Are you tired of the feeling the conflict your gut that is on fire?  Are you tired of boiling over when something hard happens in your life that is unpleasant.

Hang in there and try a little at a time.  Ask yourself, “How can I make this situation better?”  “How can I be more loving (and still not a victim)?”  It does not happen overnight but you can get better, be better and grow into the person you want to be not the one that adversity often tells you that you are.

Be strong and love your life,



Peppermint Oil

I am learning more and more about Essential Oils even though we started carrying them in 2006! I always knew God made some great things and the plants, roots, stems and barks have wonderful properties hidden inside.

We added essential oils to our products in a line called Life Song in 2006, it was not a major hit.  I have been a little ahead of my time a couple of times,  I guess this was one of them.  A couple of major direct selling companies have brought essential oils into the forefront and mainstreamed them. I am grateful because it helps all of us enjoy a great resource at our finger tips.

Prevention Magazine: May 2015
20% lower self reported anxiety and 25% less frustration after smelling peppermint essential oil.  Research from Wheeling Jesuit University suggests keeping this feel good scent on hand to sniff when stress levels start to bubble over.

Our Jordies (Jordan Essentials Consultants) have so many stories just like women used to share when something worked for them.  “Hey my kiddo has a really bad headache” says Mom, Karen.  Mom, Sally says “Have you tried Magnesium Lotion from Jordan Essentials with Peppermint oil.  Worked for us!”

These days we have to be careful though.  We do not want to say we are claiming to cure anything. I am not against doctors or modern medicine at all. I have some wonderful doctors in our life for our family. I just want to be a great Mom and help support my family and skip the medical system until we really need it.

Time has caught up with us and I hope you get a good solid education on essential oils. If you are like me and feeling overwhelmed by all the data out there start with our basic 5 every family can use.

Love your life,


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Natural Deodorant- Why won’t it work for me?


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It is amazing to me after 15 years in the skin and personal care industry how the view of products we put on our skin changes. I remember using so much hair spray in the 80’s I am sure I have enough lining on my lungs that could coat your drive way!   Fast forward to 2015 and the in thing is a more natural approach but also has to work. I am glad to see this trend.  My Mom has not worn deodorant in over 35 years and used a salt based natural solution.  We used to laugh at her but who is laughing now?

One thing I often hear is your natural plant based aluminum free deodorant does not work for me.  I want it to work, because I want to be healthy, but I still sweat!

A few tips to healthier skin care may be in order:

  1. All natural products are going to be rare and may need refrigeration. You are actually looking for safe products that work. Try using the word safe in place of all natural when going green with your skin care. Nothing is unhealthier than an infection from mold and bacteria and you do not want to waste money on products that do not work.  Throwing all those containers away is bad for the environment!
  2. You are what you eat. I think the most common place people want to start when getting healthier is skin care. It is easy! Just a swipe of deodorant each morning and I am taking a step toward healthy right?  Well yes, and no.
    Aluminum in an antiperspirant and it clogs the pores so you do not sweat.
    It also clogs up your pores so you do not sweat!  Get my drift?
    Think about it.  Why God would make you sweat out of your arm pits?  He probably had something in mind like detox your body! Think about it, a dog pants because they cannot sweat.  Are you still following me?
    So when we sweat, which is natural we are detoxing.
    If you smoke you detox that, if you eat a lot of garlic you detox that, if you eat a lot of fried and fast food you detox that.
    In place of saying “Deodorants do not work for me”, ask what can you do for your deodorant?
    Deodorant is a good place to start but also look at what you eat, your exercise routine and bathing habits.
  3. Choose fabrics that breathe. Remember, we do not want to clog our pores by wearing fabrics that do not breath.  For example, I have a shirt I really like but do not wear it when it is hot out because it traps and clogs my skin.  I am much more likely to wear it in air conditioning or cooler weather.
  4. You have to bathe. A good shower each morning is going to be your best defense.  Some of you are wondering, why on earth is she mentioning this?  Some of you are not wondering!  Maybe it is your teen who has not bathed in 3 days.  How about you got busy and in the past you just used antiperspirants to mask your lack of bathing?  You need a good shower gel or soap, warm not hot water and lather up.  Your hair can also contain oils that travel down to your face and skin which oils can do rancid.  Just a quick shower a day keeps the stink away!
  5. Stress makes a different sweat. It is true. If you are in high stress situations you make a special sweat, kind of like a skunk when they get surprised!  You can add essential oils on days you know you are going to need them.
    Tea Tree kills bacteria.  Peppermint and Lavender are great choices as well.  We carry all three in a spray you can spritz your pits, let dry and then apply your deo.

I hope these 5 quick tips help your “natural” deodorant work better.  For these and many other great safe, healthy, family skin care products we make here in the heartland of Missouri go to www.jordanessentials.

Love your Life,


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Done is better than perfect

Done is better than perfect

At our Jordan Essentials convention this past July, our Leader and guest Speaker, Paula Lister, shared this concept of done is better than perfect.  It really has had a profound impact on me since then.

Done is getting the kids in the car for church on Sunday morning and everyone is ready to hear, learn and enjoy.
Even though some clothes do not match.
Even though it was hard to get the kids out of bed.
Even though your 4 year old has only eaten PB&J for 6 months.
Even though your hair is not perfect because you got everyone else ready.

Perfect is yelling so everyone stays on your schedule.
Perfect is inspecting each person in your family so they do not embarrass you as you walk into church.
Perfect is getting up 2 hour early so all the clothes are laid out and the breakfast a nutritionist would make is ready.  Do not confused being prepared with prefect.

Done is better than perfect

When did we become people who focus on perfect?  I own a company and of course I want things that are excellent. We want people who care, work hard, products that are excellent and effective.  Do not confuse excellent with perfect.

I have been in the perfect trap too.  We hold a convention each year and often something will go wrong. The fun fact is, that most attendees will not even know about it.  We want to pull off an event that creates an environment of learning, loving one another and empowering our Consultants to be great people doing a great business.  When we focus on perfect, and I have done this for many year is makes us crazy. I mean really crazy.  We yell at people, get all worked up and we literally die over the details.  I have found the joy in the journey in these events.

People need to get things done but nothing will ever be perfect.  Excellent, yes – perfect, no.  When we work toward excellence and honoring other people, we could actually be effective people who have fun.  We can create an environment where people feel safe to be creative, make a mistake or even make things better than they are and even closer to excellence.

I have seen so many people break down in their lives especially at home with their families over perfect.  I know my family looks perfect on Facebook.  We only post nice pictures.  No one wants to know when we are not at our best!  We are far from perfect.

My marriage is excellent, it is not perfect.  Once I let that ideal of what Ron should be as a husband and untied the yolk from my neck too as a wife we were able to have a great marriage and 99% of our days now are excellent.  Zero are perfect!

Ron likes to say “Perfect people are not allowed on this planet.  There was only one perfect person that is Jesus Christ and sir you are not Jesus Christ.”

There is an excellent business book called Good to Great, by Jim Collins. The idea is that good is the enemy of great and I believe it is. I know better than to confuse this idea of done is better than perfect with sloppy, excuses for life.  That is the other extreme.  We have good schools that is why we do not have great school.  We have good marriages so we do not work toward great marriages. Good is almost worse than bad.  We want to have lives that mean something.  We want God honoring lives that give our all to glorify God, but I promise you He is not asking you to be perfect.  He knows you are not going to be because He wrote you a whole hand book for your life called the Bible, because we all need it!

The idea that we have to hold on so tight or we will become apathetic blobs is a lie we do not have to believe.  We can live in balance and harmony within ourselves.  The lie that we have to live up to others ideals or we will be outcasts is hard to hold onto in a perfect life.

If you have kids, are married, hold a job or belong to any organization like a church I am going to ask you to keep a journal for a week.   Ask yourself “What am I trying to make perfect at the expense of the people I care about.”

Are you screaming at people you care about?  Are you becoming obsessed with thoughts about how people let you down or how stupid they are for not seeing things your way?  Are you over spending on clothes and creating friendships for your child so they are the inner circle and not an outcast? I have news for you, most of my friends who are CEO’s and myself included were the dorky kids on the outside.  My parents let us create our own sloppy, silly lives and we became who God wanted us to be, not who they wanted us to be. Let go a little and let God work in your life.  I am preaching to myself here as well.  Alex is getting married this year, Zak is moving away, Ben in going to be a senior and Annya a junior.  I struggle when to add my sage, wonderful perfect advice, where I when am I trying to make them perfect by my standards and when to let them go and become their own people.
I remember the advice of my wonderful sister in law, Sherry, when she said never give up a life time in a wonderful relationship with your kids over one day, or one situation, which could block them off your life forever.

Yes, get things done but let go of perfect and love the life you have today.


Go Love Your Life!


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The weather is warming up all across the country and summer is in full swing.  Picture are posted all over face book of happy people and their families.

So why does Facebook make me uphappy sometimes?    Why the long face?

Do not get me wrong I love the Facebook communities I live in.  I love connecting with family, friends and Jordan Essentials Consultants all over the country in the click of a button I see their face or share a quick conversation or two.  It does lave me feeling I am not good enough or do enough.

Sunday I told Ron we need to go do something that would be a good facebook picture.  I was in jest of course but the more I thought about it, it was true.  We could have had a family fight, said unkind words, been going through a hard time, but put a smile on your face and post a picture and voila’ the world thinks we are the happy, sunshine family.

Truth be told we are pretty normal.  We love, we laugh, we veg out, we eat bad good, we eat good food, we make mistakes, we make up.  I think I have had an unhealthy view of my Facebook communities.  I was beginning to doubt how I looked, how I felt about my free time and guilty for not taking a big family vacation this summer!   How we let that little blue button effect our lives is our choice.

No one is perfect, some just appear that was on Facebook.  No one wants to post, Billy threw up last night during our family dinner where I just did a full on Pintrest meal that took 4 hours and we all yelled at each other on the way to church.  There really is no reason to post that anyway.  We post the good times, the highlights, the family moment we can look back on later with a smile and say “Ah that was a fun moment I wanted to share.”  The real risk is when we take other peoples pages, pictures and posts out of context and judge ourselves through the lenses of their lives.

I am just being real this morning. I know people think we are perfect.  We have a loving family full of crazy mixed up people and way too many pets.  We also have struggles, we have arguments, we have issues like all families, we just do not post on Facebook about it!

So I am going on a diet!  A Facebook diet.  My career with Jordan Essentials opens up a whole new world on Facebook I just love.  We support each other, encourage each other and when they have a need they can use the community to help one another.   I am going to work hard to remind myself when scrolling through posts that these are real people showing their Sunday best for their personal memories and enjoy their humor and sentimental moments they are sharing.  I am not going to use it as the gospel, or a yard stick in any way. I have no notifications on my phone linked to facebook and I am going to use it as a tool for good and not evil!

Today I hope you look in the mirror and tell yourself how really cool you are not get your self worth from comparison with other people, because you are wonderfully made by a God who thinks you are awesome and so do I.




It was a doosey!!

Last week was a doosey.  Spell Check does not like the word doosey, but I cannot think of a better word.  The Urban Dictionary says a doosey is:   A Problematic situation categorized by error, complicated information or challenge.

Ok so it was challenging.  I even pondered whether to write about it on my Monday Note from Nancy to my JE Consultants. But life is not all roses and easy, no matter who you are…

I was out to eat lunch Sunday after church with the kids and we were talking about how complicated life can be.  Annya said “I just want to be a regular normal kid,”  to which Ben said “What is a normal and regular person or family?”  Touche’ my kiddo, touche’!

The week was a long series of events that led up to my doosey summation, you know the type of week where had it been one thing you could say “wow that stunk” or even two life events to say, “whew glad that is over.”  But it was no ordinary week, it was a doosey: complicated and challenging.

I had events from work, friends, kids, and health.  I had hard decisions, miscommunications, bad news, and general mayhem.

There is a saying about the straw that broke the camel’s back.  A camel is a strong animal able to carry a lot but there will be a point where one last straw will break him…

It was Friday afternoon and I had my last straw.  Why do I share this with you today?  Because I think every person comes to that moment sometime in their life.  I also think there are people who never recover, have no skills to get through it and even though I struggled I realized that I have learned a few skills that help me and may help others too.

At church we are studying “Ghost Stories, who is the Holy Spirit.” (My pastor has a sense of humor and wit J  go to http://www.npconline.tv/)

They are busting the myths around the role of the Holy Spirit.  So Sunday I cried through most of praise and worship time–I love corporate worship it just reminds me who God is, who I am and gives me hope. It may disturb my kids to see me cry through song service but they will get it someday. LOL–The Holy Spirit is the comforter and free counselor!  I really felt hopeless walking in and hope filled walking out.  Gotta love the church when it is fully functioning and  you receive the gift that it is.

So how do you go through a doosey day, week, month or year?  Do you have some disappointments, miscommunications, bad news and general mayhem in your life?  I cannot even begin to guess or give advice for your personal situation. I am not sure how, but by the grace of God people make it through a difficult diagnosis of a child, and I am just talking about a bad week here.  The grace of God can get each of us through our doosey situations.

With a humble and very human heart here are a couple of things that happened to help turn around my doosey of a week, that could quite easily become a doosey month and year….

  1. Remember who you are.  I think sometimes we forget and begin to let the situation define us. We think ” I am a bad parent, friend, person,” and those thoughts float into our heads.  I literally make a word document and write out who I am beginning with I am a child of God.
  2. Have someone you love remind you who you are.  Do not ask them to go through the situation and validate your position on a subject.  Just ask them to tell you what your strengths are and why they love you.  This is fun when my kids and Ron do this, follow up with a warm hug and it is good medicine.
  3. Take the problems apart.  Ask yourself what you can do about each one.  I have a planner pad from plannerpad.com and you can schedule and plan out projects.  So let’s say for example you had a really rough IEP meeting for your daughter (which I did) and they had all this overwhelming information and things we have to do. It was emotionally charged and so I could not think straight.  I will plot out when I will send the teachers the paper work I have to do.  I will at least feel like I did something to tackle the problem.
  4. Do something good for you.  So Saturday morning I could have quite easily had some tea stayed in my jammies and eaten a plethora of gluten free brownies.  Instead  I called my Mom and we took Annya and my niece to garage sales, shopping and then downtown for pets and pumpkins.  It was a really fun day. Sometimes you have to fight through the feeling of isolation and brooding.  I also remodeled and painted my bathroom.  Better to use that energy for good than to feed your thoughts.
  5. Get in the word of God.  If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, He has all kinds of ways to help. I love corporate worship, worship music, good preaching. There is a Bible called the Message Version which almost cracks me up sometimes.   For example you can go online and Google Bible Gateway, choose the message version and type in trouble.   I like going to the Psalms.

Psalm 4:1

[ A David Psalm ] When I call, give me answers. God, take my side! Once, in a tight place, you gave me room; Now I’m in trouble again: grace me! hear me!
Remember this is what I do when I am stressed.  Give me grace here from the scholars about the Message vs the King James LOL

  1. Journal. If you really need to get crabby, sad, or be hysterical try journaling. I know experts say to let it all out, but I write it like I know someone is going to read it someday.  No need to be hurtful and keep it about how you feel not how you have been wronged.  That does not help anyone.
  2.  Ask yourself “What can you do?”  People too often focus on the problem (me included) and not on the opportunity attached to the problem.  The Bible is full of sunshine and happy stories… oh wait it is not.  It is full of imperfect people making a bunch of mistakes who have problems and then leaning on the Lord.

I know some of my last week will spill over to this week and some of it may be spilling for a couple of weeks.   Hope is a beautiful thing.  Just the faith of a mustard seed will be rewarded said Jesus.  I am stronger and wiser for my doosey week.  It may just be preparing me for what God has ahead and in store for me.

I would have never thought when I started JE that we would be where we are today and by the grace of God,  He will lead me, my family and my company onward and upward day by doosey day!

Hope your week is blessed and pleasant.


Expect the Best When Traveling!!

Ah the glamour of traveling! Travel can be wonderful and yet trying at times. Family vacations are often planned as this wonderful event by Mom and Dad, but then real life happens and someone throws up or hits someone. My travels this last week were a bit of a funny story now that I look back on it.  All I can say is the agenda looked great on paper and my intentions were noble!

Friday morning I arose at 4:45 am to catch an early flight to Reno, NV for a wellness clinic with some fabulous Jordies. I felt the 6 am flight that had me arriving at 11:30 am would be perfect for our 7 pm meeting. So there I was boarding the plane, I got sat down and was feeling good about my first flight of my packed seven day journey.

Yes, there I sat for 2 hours! By that time my connecting flight in Dallas was long gone…I looked down at my cell phone as we sat on the plane and an e mail from American Airlines read “Good news! You have been booked on the 8:55 pm Dallas to Reno flight as a courtesy.” It was like they were saying “Ta-da! Look at how awesome this is, we have you getting into Reno at 10:30 pm–approx. 3.5 hours after the meeting was set to start.

I quickly gathered myself together in my tiny little seat on my tiny little plane and asked myself “What can I do?” Dale Carnegie teaches in difficult situations to ask: What is the worst thing that can happen and work up from there. It frees your mind from worry about what could happen since you have identified it and put a light on it and then moved on to the best plan possible.

What can I do? First I called Angie, my friend at the home office, to check out other flights while I was in the air since she had assisted me in making my plans. I also contacted Cindy Baines, my host leader in Reno, and told her the show may have to go on without me and I would send my notes on how to do the wellness clinic when I hit Dallas. I had already sent ahead the supplies, all they needed was a facilitator and it could be me or her. The guests would get pampered either way!!

Let’s fast forward to Dallas and the poor gate agent. I always try to be super nice, however the man behind me on the plane needed to give me his mother’s phone number so I could call her and have rinse his mouth out with soap!! He was falling apart due to the weather delay and schedule change. It got me thinking about how often we actually give up real control only to try to gain it. We were safe, we did not go through the storms, wherever our flight was taking us the crew wanted us to be safe, right? The man behind me was cussing and literally stomping the floor. I prayed quietly for him as we waited to land and for the people waiting there to help us on our next flight. Prayer and expecting God to show up are powerful ways to peace.

Gate agent says: “We can get you to Reno at 6:45pm through Phoenix or leave you on the Dallas, Reno flight at 8:55.” I reply “Phoenix it is, thank you so much.” With new ticket in hand I call Cindy and tell her to hand spa and stall, I would be there! I land at 6:45 as promised…my luggage did not. I filled out the claim form and grabbed a cab to the event and walked in at 7:15 to hugs, smiling faces and a wonderful evening of pampering and JE hospitality. J

Once our event was over we called about my luggage, it had been on the 8:55p flight due to arrive at 10:55p and so we wait. The airline called at 11 pm and said they had my luggage and it would be delivered in the next six hours. Wow! Six hours, time to get some sleep…but I awoke at 4:45a with the thought: “I should have heard a knock and the luggage should be here.”  I look outside the door, no luggage, so I called again, only to find they had delivered it to the wrong address!

Now, is where it gets interesting!

The address was just up the road at a house. I thought I better go get it before the home owner wakes up and so I head out with just my cell phone flash light and a pen. LOL! The pen was the only pointy object I could find. I go walking in the dark in Reno with a cell phone flash light, and a pen, come on now that is funny! (Ron did not think so when I told him later)

I walked down the street and my cell phone said “Destination on left.” Uuummm, no voice in the cell phone, it is not. I had walked for about 10 min to get there and once I realized my luggage was not there and no such address existed, I started to think how I was out in the dark and what the neighbors may think: a prowler…and then a sprinkler goes off, I jump about 5 feet off the ground and proceed to sprint back! It only took me about 4 minutes to get back to my room!

More calls to the airline and they said “Oh that must have been Barbie who sent it to the wrong place and you live in Mississippi?” I said “No, I live in Missouri and if Barbie has had this problem before can we talk to Barbie and maybe do some training.” They apologized and said my luggage may be there before 1 pm. The issue I explained was that my next flight left on Alaska Air at 10 am and I needed to get myself along with my luggage checked in….

Another quick check in with myself: “What is the worst thing that can happen and what can I do?” Cindy had JE make up for me (Thank the Lord for fellow Jordies), I can borrow a suitcase and pack the supplies for the Oregon meeting, buy some new clothes and have my luggage sent to my last destination in Santa Rosa and I may get it by Wednesday before I leave to come home on Thursday. Again, a peace in knowing that was settled, prayer that the Lord would take care of me and expecting the best, I waited to find out the fate of my luggage I had put on the plane the morning before.

At 8:10am the gate agent comes running to me with my luggage in tow and many words of apology. A quick grab of a few key things and I sent it off on Alaska Air to my second destination in Medford, Oregon. The flight was on time and my luggage arrived as planned!! My lovely Oregon Host, Shelley Trumbly, took me to my room and I had a long shower, good food, clean jammies and slept for 10 hours, rested and ready for the remainder of my trip.

Last week I had 10 flights in seven days, which is not for the faint of heart. Why on earth would I do that, you may ask yourself and how am I feeling today? I do it for the love of the people I get to see, learn from, teach, hug, share, smile, give, and receive. I feel great and am headed out for my next trip this Friday to Virginia. Who knows what the friendly skies will hold for me….but I am carrying on my luggage this time!

Enjoy the journey.



My in-laws just had their 50th anniversary this weekend and it made me think about longevity. At Jordan Essentials, we have many consultants who have been with us as long as 10 years and some even 14 years! What makes for a relationship that is long standing?

As many new Consultants have joined us this last month, I want you to know YOU have a place here. Sometimes longevity can be interpreted as a “club” or “in the know” group, and we do not want you to feel as if there isn’t a place for you. I have found the long time Leaders and Consultants at Jordan Essentials to be the most inclusive and loving people I have ever met!! Know that you belong as part of our story!

When you start your path as a JE Consultant you are excited.  That excitement will get you started, commitment will keep you going and conviction will make you serious money!

Longevity should be your goal. You started a new business, however most new “traditional” businesses do not make it one year. But you have little invested financially and now you can invest time, care and energy for a huge pay off with that little risk.

JE has the tools and training to help you make it for the long haul.

I recently heard a powerful story that paints the picture of opportunity….Tupperware had a young lady who began selling in Russia who was in her early 20s with no car, no experience but needed an income.  She would take a train to her parties, collect the orders (no one would give her money),  fill the orders, go back to the guests and complete the orders and collect the money. That was a lot of work and commitment. She stuck with it is and is a multi-millionaire today.

She is living a successful life like no one else because she was willing to work like no one else.

I am pretty sure we have better opportunities that an impoverished Russian woman without a car. We have so many opportunities as Americans and Jordan Essentials is essentially unknown across the country….what if you really committed to a successful long term business? What if?

Longevity is…




Poor Memory for the bad things

Great Memory for the good things




Never gives up


Belief in what you are doing

You can be the success your family needs you to be when you keep your eye on the prize and the promise of tomorrow.

Enjoy the journey.


Expect Less….

Each birthday since I was 20 Ron has worked hard to make me happy. He plans, gets all the details worked out, asks me what I want, and bribes the kids to behave for one day. One eventful birthday was my 40th. I wanted to go to Dogwood Canyon in southern Missouri and bike ride as a family. August birthday’s are hot, I am just saying this in case you may not be familiar with near 100 degree Missouri summers. Hot + bike ride + little kids= misery. I expected a lot and got frustrated, Ron was coercing, kids were crying and I was awful.

Fast forward a couple of years, my kids are now 16- 20 years old and we see them less and less. Ron asked the annual question, “What do you want to do for your birthday”. We had a long talk about expectations and I decided to expect less. I decided I would be delighted with anything just having all 6 of us + 2 girl friends. The girls live in the Branson area so the boys picked them up and we met in Branson (we did not expect to haul 8 of us in one car) and that was good start to the day! When we went to lunch at a favorite sea food place, I did not expect the kids to like the menu or choices. They didn’t, but I found it funny this time. We went to a shop and I did not expect us all to stay together and we disbanded, girls one way and boys went another. It was fun being with the girls and I am still not sure where the boys went but they came back smiling and happy to carry our bags to the car for me and Alex had a balloon hat on!

Ron had told them to meet at 11:30 and hang around until 2 pm and then they can do what they wanted. We were going down to my Dad’s at the lake to swim (remember the hot reference) and they were welcome to come but we did not expect it. They hung out with us until almost 8 pm and we had an awesome time, swimming, talking and hanging out. I did not expect it and I was pleasantly surprised!

I have high energy, high expectation and work hard. I am passionate about the people I love and now I love them enough to expect less. My kids, friends, family and Ron can be put on a pedestal that is all too easy to fall off. We can still have high expectations for greatness in our lives we just need to ease up on people. It has been quite freeing in my marriage and family.

I also decided I needed to give myself that same gift. I will always be committed, hardworking and expect the best God has to offer, I am just not going to beat myself up with unmet expectations. I got to the point I was almost too afraid to set a high goal knowing it might not happen.

Darren Hardy in the Compound Effect said it best “Set your goals very high so your actions will follow. You may not meet that goal, but the actions you accomplish get you closer to the goal.”

I am always going to be a goal setter, and a reach for the stars kind of girl. I am have learned to watch those unhealthy expectations that harm relationships with myself and others.

I have a sign in my home office that has been there for years; Work Hard, Pray Hard, Trust God. The message has been there all along. There is a balance in life we need to keep and I know God has no intention to set us up for failure.

This has been one of the best birthdays I have ever had and it began with zero expectations from my family and I never felt more loved!




On this bright summer morning I thought about freedom. Last Sunday at church our Pastor spoke on freedom, and this weekend our nation will celebrate freedom, thus freedom is on my mind this today…

I have literally met thousands of women over the years who live in a free country who do not live free. I think all of us struggle at some point with freedom in our thought life. We doubt, fear, worry, yes all of us do at some time, including me.

What is it that is deep inside that we worry about that keeps our minds and hearts from being free? “Was I a good Mom, did I equip them to be a good member of society and love the Lord?” And for me, that was just this last weekend!

I know a couple of things that really help me stay mentally free and I hope they bless your life this week.

1. I pray- a lot! I personally do not think I can do anything on my own and I love praying for the favor of God on my life and for direction each day.

2. When I feel down I play loud music. Yep, anything positive, upbeat, and has a good message.

3. Talk to a good friend. Now this is the tricky part, they have to steer you back to freedom. Studies show, talking about something negative more than 9 minutes mentally sticks you in a rut and that begins the bondage of fear, and doubt.

You are looking for a mentor, friend, and positive, powerful influence. Don’t have one? Come to convention, they are all over the place!

4. Journal. It reminds me of past problems I was able to over come and this problem will pass as well. I just write the facts, it is not a grudge record, just facts of what is going on and ponder how I am feeling so I can work on being an over comer in my life.

5. Get outside. This does not work for everyone but it does for me. I could go to work earlier in the mornings but I choose to walk outside. I love the sounds of the birds, the green grass and it reminds me of God’s glory. Be alone with God and ask him for your freedom. Freedom from doubt, and fear.

I close by asking you to think about who you are.
Are you strong, self confident and free?
Are you free to be the person you want to be and live with mental freedom?
If not what is holding you back?

This is going to be a hot topic at convention this year because I see so many people struggle with the issue of personal freedom. Take some time this week to evaluate where you are at and who you want to be. This is a free country and not everyone gets that privilege in this world.

Many blessings as we celebrate our nations freedom and yours!

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