It was a doosey!!

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Last week was a doosey.  Spell Check does not like the word doosey, but I cannot think of a better word.  The Urban Dictionary says a doosey is:   A Problematic situation categorized by error, complicated information or challenge.

Ok so it was challenging.  I even pondered whether to write about it on my Monday Note from Nancy to my JE Consultants. But life is not all roses and easy, no matter who you are…

I was out to eat lunch Sunday after church with the kids and we were talking about how complicated life can be.  Annya said “I just want to be a regular normal kid,”  to which Ben said “What is a normal and regular person or family?”  Touche’ my kiddo, touche’!

The week was a long series of events that led up to my doosey summation, you know the type of week where had it been one thing you could say “wow that stunk” or even two life events to say, “whew glad that is over.”  But it was no ordinary week, it was a doosey: complicated and challenging.

I had events from work, friends, kids, and health.  I had hard decisions, miscommunications, bad news, and general mayhem.

There is a saying about the straw that broke the camel’s back.  A camel is a strong animal able to carry a lot but there will be a point where one last straw will break him…

It was Friday afternoon and I had my last straw.  Why do I share this with you today?  Because I think every person comes to that moment sometime in their life.  I also think there are people who never recover, have no skills to get through it and even though I struggled I realized that I have learned a few skills that help me and may help others too.

At church we are studying “Ghost Stories, who is the Holy Spirit.” (My pastor has a sense of humor and wit J  go to http://www.npconline.tv/)

They are busting the myths around the role of the Holy Spirit.  So Sunday I cried through most of praise and worship time–I love corporate worship it just reminds me who God is, who I am and gives me hope. It may disturb my kids to see me cry through song service but they will get it someday. LOL–The Holy Spirit is the comforter and free counselor!  I really felt hopeless walking in and hope filled walking out.  Gotta love the church when it is fully functioning and  you receive the gift that it is.

So how do you go through a doosey day, week, month or year?  Do you have some disappointments, miscommunications, bad news and general mayhem in your life?  I cannot even begin to guess or give advice for your personal situation. I am not sure how, but by the grace of God people make it through a difficult diagnosis of a child, and I am just talking about a bad week here.  The grace of God can get each of us through our doosey situations.

With a humble and very human heart here are a couple of things that happened to help turn around my doosey of a week, that could quite easily become a doosey month and year….

  1. Remember who you are.  I think sometimes we forget and begin to let the situation define us. We think ” I am a bad parent, friend, person,” and those thoughts float into our heads.  I literally make a word document and write out who I am beginning with I am a child of God.
  2. Have someone you love remind you who you are.  Do not ask them to go through the situation and validate your position on a subject.  Just ask them to tell you what your strengths are and why they love you.  This is fun when my kids and Ron do this, follow up with a warm hug and it is good medicine.
  3. Take the problems apart.  Ask yourself what you can do about each one.  I have a planner pad from plannerpad.com and you can schedule and plan out projects.  So let’s say for example you had a really rough IEP meeting for your daughter (which I did) and they had all this overwhelming information and things we have to do. It was emotionally charged and so I could not think straight.  I will plot out when I will send the teachers the paper work I have to do.  I will at least feel like I did something to tackle the problem.
  4. Do something good for you.  So Saturday morning I could have quite easily had some tea stayed in my jammies and eaten a plethora of gluten free brownies.  Instead  I called my Mom and we took Annya and my niece to garage sales, shopping and then downtown for pets and pumpkins.  It was a really fun day. Sometimes you have to fight through the feeling of isolation and brooding.  I also remodeled and painted my bathroom.  Better to use that energy for good than to feed your thoughts.
  5. Get in the word of God.  If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, He has all kinds of ways to help. I love corporate worship, worship music, good preaching. There is a Bible called the Message Version which almost cracks me up sometimes.   For example you can go online and Google Bible Gateway, choose the message version and type in trouble.   I like going to the Psalms.

Psalm 4:1

[ A David Psalm ] When I call, give me answers. God, take my side! Once, in a tight place, you gave me room; Now I’m in trouble again: grace me! hear me!
Remember this is what I do when I am stressed.  Give me grace here from the scholars about the Message vs the King James LOL

  1. Journal. If you really need to get crabby, sad, or be hysterical try journaling. I know experts say to let it all out, but I write it like I know someone is going to read it someday.  No need to be hurtful and keep it about how you feel not how you have been wronged.  That does not help anyone.
  2.  Ask yourself “What can you do?”  People too often focus on the problem (me included) and not on the opportunity attached to the problem.  The Bible is full of sunshine and happy stories… oh wait it is not.  It is full of imperfect people making a bunch of mistakes who have problems and then leaning on the Lord.

I know some of my last week will spill over to this week and some of it may be spilling for a couple of weeks.   Hope is a beautiful thing.  Just the faith of a mustard seed will be rewarded said Jesus.  I am stronger and wiser for my doosey week.  It may just be preparing me for what God has ahead and in store for me.

I would have never thought when I started JE that we would be where we are today and by the grace of God,  He will lead me, my family and my company onward and upward day by doosey day!

Hope your week is blessed and pleasant.

Nanc

Expect the Best When Traveling!!

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Ah the glamour of traveling! Travel can be wonderful and yet trying at times. Family vacations are often planned as this wonderful event by Mom and Dad, but then real life happens and someone throws up or hits someone. My travels this last week were a bit of a funny story now that I look back on it.  All I can say is the agenda looked great on paper and my intentions were noble!

Friday morning I arose at 4:45 am to catch an early flight to Reno, NV for a wellness clinic with some fabulous Jordies. I felt the 6 am flight that had me arriving at 11:30 am would be perfect for our 7 pm meeting. So there I was boarding the plane, I got sat down and was feeling good about my first flight of my packed seven day journey.

Yes, there I sat for 2 hours! By that time my connecting flight in Dallas was long gone…I looked down at my cell phone as we sat on the plane and an e mail from American Airlines read “Good news! You have been booked on the 8:55 pm Dallas to Reno flight as a courtesy.” It was like they were saying “Ta-da! Look at how awesome this is, we have you getting into Reno at 10:30 pm–approx. 3.5 hours after the meeting was set to start.

I quickly gathered myself together in my tiny little seat on my tiny little plane and asked myself “What can I do?” Dale Carnegie teaches in difficult situations to ask: What is the worst thing that can happen and work up from there. It frees your mind from worry about what could happen since you have identified it and put a light on it and then moved on to the best plan possible.

What can I do? First I called Angie, my friend at the home office, to check out other flights while I was in the air since she had assisted me in making my plans. I also contacted Cindy Baines, my host leader in Reno, and told her the show may have to go on without me and I would send my notes on how to do the wellness clinic when I hit Dallas. I had already sent ahead the supplies, all they needed was a facilitator and it could be me or her. The guests would get pampered either way!!

Let’s fast forward to Dallas and the poor gate agent. I always try to be super nice, however the man behind me on the plane needed to give me his mother’s phone number so I could call her and have rinse his mouth out with soap!! He was falling apart due to the weather delay and schedule change. It got me thinking about how often we actually give up real control only to try to gain it. We were safe, we did not go through the storms, wherever our flight was taking us the crew wanted us to be safe, right? The man behind me was cussing and literally stomping the floor. I prayed quietly for him as we waited to land and for the people waiting there to help us on our next flight. Prayer and expecting God to show up are powerful ways to peace.

Gate agent says: “We can get you to Reno at 6:45pm through Phoenix or leave you on the Dallas, Reno flight at 8:55.” I reply “Phoenix it is, thank you so much.” With new ticket in hand I call Cindy and tell her to hand spa and stall, I would be there! I land at 6:45 as promised…my luggage did not. I filled out the claim form and grabbed a cab to the event and walked in at 7:15 to hugs, smiling faces and a wonderful evening of pampering and JE hospitality. J

Once our event was over we called about my luggage, it had been on the 8:55p flight due to arrive at 10:55p and so we wait. The airline called at 11 pm and said they had my luggage and it would be delivered in the next six hours. Wow! Six hours, time to get some sleep…but I awoke at 4:45a with the thought: “I should have heard a knock and the luggage should be here.”  I look outside the door, no luggage, so I called again, only to find they had delivered it to the wrong address!

Now, is where it gets interesting!

The address was just up the road at a house. I thought I better go get it before the home owner wakes up and so I head out with just my cell phone flash light and a pen. LOL! The pen was the only pointy object I could find. I go walking in the dark in Reno with a cell phone flash light, and a pen, come on now that is funny! (Ron did not think so when I told him later)

I walked down the street and my cell phone said “Destination on left.” Uuummm, no voice in the cell phone, it is not. I had walked for about 10 min to get there and once I realized my luggage was not there and no such address existed, I started to think how I was out in the dark and what the neighbors may think: a prowler…and then a sprinkler goes off, I jump about 5 feet off the ground and proceed to sprint back! It only took me about 4 minutes to get back to my room!

More calls to the airline and they said “Oh that must have been Barbie who sent it to the wrong place and you live in Mississippi?” I said “No, I live in Missouri and if Barbie has had this problem before can we talk to Barbie and maybe do some training.” They apologized and said my luggage may be there before 1 pm. The issue I explained was that my next flight left on Alaska Air at 10 am and I needed to get myself along with my luggage checked in….

Another quick check in with myself: “What is the worst thing that can happen and what can I do?” Cindy had JE make up for me (Thank the Lord for fellow Jordies), I can borrow a suitcase and pack the supplies for the Oregon meeting, buy some new clothes and have my luggage sent to my last destination in Santa Rosa and I may get it by Wednesday before I leave to come home on Thursday. Again, a peace in knowing that was settled, prayer that the Lord would take care of me and expecting the best, I waited to find out the fate of my luggage I had put on the plane the morning before.

At 8:10am the gate agent comes running to me with my luggage in tow and many words of apology. A quick grab of a few key things and I sent it off on Alaska Air to my second destination in Medford, Oregon. The flight was on time and my luggage arrived as planned!! My lovely Oregon Host, Shelley Trumbly, took me to my room and I had a long shower, good food, clean jammies and slept for 10 hours, rested and ready for the remainder of my trip.

Last week I had 10 flights in seven days, which is not for the faint of heart. Why on earth would I do that, you may ask yourself and how am I feeling today? I do it for the love of the people I get to see, learn from, teach, hug, share, smile, give, and receive. I feel great and am headed out for my next trip this Friday to Virginia. Who knows what the friendly skies will hold for me….but I am carrying on my luggage this time!

Enjoy the journey.

Nanc

Longevity!!

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My in-laws just had their 50th anniversary this weekend and it made me think about longevity. At Jordan Essentials, we have many consultants who have been with us as long as 10 years and some even 14 years! What makes for a relationship that is long standing?

As many new Consultants have joined us this last month, I want you to know YOU have a place here. Sometimes longevity can be interpreted as a “club” or “in the know” group, and we do not want you to feel as if there isn’t a place for you. I have found the long time Leaders and Consultants at Jordan Essentials to be the most inclusive and loving people I have ever met!! Know that you belong as part of our story!

When you start your path as a JE Consultant you are excited.  That excitement will get you started, commitment will keep you going and conviction will make you serious money!

Longevity should be your goal. You started a new business, however most new “traditional” businesses do not make it one year. But you have little invested financially and now you can invest time, care and energy for a huge pay off with that little risk.

JE has the tools and training to help you make it for the long haul.

I recently heard a powerful story that paints the picture of opportunity….Tupperware had a young lady who began selling in Russia who was in her early 20s with no car, no experience but needed an income.  She would take a train to her parties, collect the orders (no one would give her money),  fill the orders, go back to the guests and complete the orders and collect the money. That was a lot of work and commitment. She stuck with it is and is a multi-millionaire today.

She is living a successful life like no one else because she was willing to work like no one else.

I am pretty sure we have better opportunities that an impoverished Russian woman without a car. We have so many opportunities as Americans and Jordan Essentials is essentially unknown across the country….what if you really committed to a successful long term business? What if?

Longevity is…

Commitment

Compassion

Conviction

Poor Memory for the bad things

Great Memory for the good things

Adaptable

Forgiving

Tenacious

Never gives up

Optimistic

Belief in what you are doing

You can be the success your family needs you to be when you keep your eye on the prize and the promise of tomorrow.

Enjoy the journey.

Nanc

Expect Less….

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Each birthday since I was 20 Ron has worked hard to make me happy. He plans, gets all the details worked out, asks me what I want, and bribes the kids to behave for one day. One eventful birthday was my 40th. I wanted to go to Dogwood Canyon in southern Missouri and bike ride as a family. August birthday’s are hot, I am just saying this in case you may not be familiar with near 100 degree Missouri summers. Hot + bike ride + little kids= misery. I expected a lot and got frustrated, Ron was coercing, kids were crying and I was awful.

Fast forward a couple of years, my kids are now 16- 20 years old and we see them less and less. Ron asked the annual question, “What do you want to do for your birthday”. We had a long talk about expectations and I decided to expect less. I decided I would be delighted with anything just having all 6 of us + 2 girl friends. The girls live in the Branson area so the boys picked them up and we met in Branson (we did not expect to haul 8 of us in one car) and that was good start to the day! When we went to lunch at a favorite sea food place, I did not expect the kids to like the menu or choices. They didn’t, but I found it funny this time. We went to a shop and I did not expect us all to stay together and we disbanded, girls one way and boys went another. It was fun being with the girls and I am still not sure where the boys went but they came back smiling and happy to carry our bags to the car for me and Alex had a balloon hat on!

Ron had told them to meet at 11:30 and hang around until 2 pm and then they can do what they wanted. We were going down to my Dad’s at the lake to swim (remember the hot reference) and they were welcome to come but we did not expect it. They hung out with us until almost 8 pm and we had an awesome time, swimming, talking and hanging out. I did not expect it and I was pleasantly surprised!

I have high energy, high expectation and work hard. I am passionate about the people I love and now I love them enough to expect less. My kids, friends, family and Ron can be put on a pedestal that is all too easy to fall off. We can still have high expectations for greatness in our lives we just need to ease up on people. It has been quite freeing in my marriage and family.

I also decided I needed to give myself that same gift. I will always be committed, hardworking and expect the best God has to offer, I am just not going to beat myself up with unmet expectations. I got to the point I was almost too afraid to set a high goal knowing it might not happen.

Darren Hardy in the Compound Effect said it best “Set your goals very high so your actions will follow. You may not meet that goal, but the actions you accomplish get you closer to the goal.”

I am always going to be a goal setter, and a reach for the stars kind of girl. I am have learned to watch those unhealthy expectations that harm relationships with myself and others.

I have a sign in my home office that has been there for years; Work Hard, Pray Hard, Trust God. The message has been there all along. There is a balance in life we need to keep and I know God has no intention to set us up for failure.

This has been one of the best birthdays I have ever had and it began with zero expectations from my family and I never felt more loved!

Nanc

Freedom!!

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Freedom:

On this bright summer morning I thought about freedom. Last Sunday at church our Pastor spoke on freedom, and this weekend our nation will celebrate freedom, thus freedom is on my mind this today…

I have literally met thousands of women over the years who live in a free country who do not live free. I think all of us struggle at some point with freedom in our thought life. We doubt, fear, worry, yes all of us do at some time, including me.

What is it that is deep inside that we worry about that keeps our minds and hearts from being free? “Was I a good Mom, did I equip them to be a good member of society and love the Lord?” And for me, that was just this last weekend!

I know a couple of things that really help me stay mentally free and I hope they bless your life this week.

1. I pray- a lot! I personally do not think I can do anything on my own and I love praying for the favor of God on my life and for direction each day.

2. When I feel down I play loud music. Yep, anything positive, upbeat, and has a good message.

3. Talk to a good friend. Now this is the tricky part, they have to steer you back to freedom. Studies show, talking about something negative more than 9 minutes mentally sticks you in a rut and that begins the bondage of fear, and doubt.

You are looking for a mentor, friend, and positive, powerful influence. Don’t have one? Come to convention, they are all over the place!

4. Journal. It reminds me of past problems I was able to over come and this problem will pass as well. I just write the facts, it is not a grudge record, just facts of what is going on and ponder how I am feeling so I can work on being an over comer in my life.

5. Get outside. This does not work for everyone but it does for me. I could go to work earlier in the mornings but I choose to walk outside. I love the sounds of the birds, the green grass and it reminds me of God’s glory. Be alone with God and ask him for your freedom. Freedom from doubt, and fear.

I close by asking you to think about who you are.
Are you strong, self confident and free?
Are you free to be the person you want to be and live with mental freedom?
If not what is holding you back?

This is going to be a hot topic at convention this year because I see so many people struggle with the issue of personal freedom. Take some time this week to evaluate where you are at and who you want to be. This is a free country and not everyone gets that privilege in this world.

Many blessings as we celebrate our nations freedom and yours!
Nanc

Get Motivated!!

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Boy is it getting hot outside! It was super cold, then very rainy and now getting hot here in the Midwest! The temperature swings are something you have to get used to even when you have lived here your whole life.
I know some of you in the South do not own a coat and some of you in the North do not own 40 tank tops! Adaptability & attitude to our environment makes us thrive, and not just to the weather.
 
I have met so many women who struggle emotionally, feeling tossed to and fro by the weather of life and I used to be one of them!
How do you get a hold of your emotions and not allow the world, other people and situations to grab you by the gut?
It takes work, but there is a way.
 
-Pour more positive into your life so that the positive will dilute the negative.
-Listen to motivational speakers & read motivational books
-And be around awesome people!!
These are all great ways to dilute negative in your life.
At the Home Office we are so busy planning for our annual Jordanvention from July 18- 20…this event is one of the best ways I know how to stay filled up all year long!
People ask me all the time how I stay positive and centered. I pray, a lot, and I go to motivational seminars and take great lengths to be around empowering people in my life. In 14 years I have been to many events and I have yet to regret one of them. I know that if you will make the time to come to Jordanvention, you’re not going to regret investing that time either!!
As the summer cooks on here in the midwest we are planning for the arrival of the Jordan Essentials Family in July. I hope you will come and get filled up on good thoughts, good friends and good times which only come once per year! See you there…
Believe and succeed!!
…Nanc

Top 100 bound!!

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I just got back from Dallas and the top 100 direct selling companies in the world were announced, we heard names you would recognize such as: Thirty-One Gifts, Scentsy, PartyLite, Arbonne, and of course Avon and Mary Kay.  I sat there last year and wondered what it would be like and how we would get on the list.  We have the best products and best consultants in the world and this would be a nice award to achieve….

However, this year my thoughts were different:  I sat there knowing we CAN be on the list!  Once we enhanced our compensation plan we lined up everything needed to be a top company in the world!!  As they read the company names and the top 10 businesses were revealed, I noticed that many of them were personal care and wellness companies like ours.  None of these companies were a family skincare business but they share the same space with us in the market. 

I really began to reflect on the speakers we had heard at the event and this was the first year I could really say they do not have anything more than we do, except they have more consultants than we do…and that my friends is changing!  We have tripled sponsoring in the first three months of the year and are still going strong.  Consultants are making real career money and new people joining are getting a solid start and foundation with our $100 cash bonus in their first three months.

I see us moving closer to that list, now more than ever. I can see it now: our Jordie Consultant’s stories making life changing money, such as the story of the woman who made $60,000 per month as a Nu Skin consultant.  

I believe, without a doubt, we are Building It Big in 2014 and we my friends, will make that list!

~Nanc