Last week was a doosey. Spell Check does not like the word doosey, but I cannot think of a better word. The Urban Dictionary says a doosey is: A Problematic situation categorized by error, complicated information or challenge.
Ok so it was challenging. I even pondered whether to write about it on my Monday Note from Nancy to my JE Consultants. But life is not all roses and easy, no matter who you are…
I was out to eat lunch Sunday after church with the kids and we were talking about how complicated life can be. Annya said “I just want to be a regular normal kid,” to which Ben said “What is a normal and regular person or family?” Touche’ my kiddo, touche’!
The week was a long series of events that led up to my doosey summation, you know the type of week where had it been one thing you could say “wow that stunk” or even two life events to say, “whew glad that is over.” But it was no ordinary week, it was a doosey: complicated and challenging.
I had events from work, friends, kids, and health. I had hard decisions, miscommunications, bad news, and general mayhem.
There is a saying about the straw that broke the camel’s back. A camel is a strong animal able to carry a lot but there will be a point where one last straw will break him…
It was Friday afternoon and I had my last straw. Why do I share this with you today? Because I think every person comes to that moment sometime in their life. I also think there are people who never recover, have no skills to get through it and even though I struggled I realized that I have learned a few skills that help me and may help others too.
At church we are studying “Ghost Stories, who is the Holy Spirit.” (My pastor has a sense of humor and wit J go to http://www.npconline.tv/)
They are busting the myths around the role of the Holy Spirit. So Sunday I cried through most of praise and worship time–I love corporate worship it just reminds me who God is, who I am and gives me hope. It may disturb my kids to see me cry through song service but they will get it someday. LOL–The Holy Spirit is the comforter and free counselor! I really felt hopeless walking in and hope filled walking out. Gotta love the church when it is fully functioning and you receive the gift that it is.
So how do you go through a doosey day, week, month or year? Do you have some disappointments, miscommunications, bad news and general mayhem in your life? I cannot even begin to guess or give advice for your personal situation. I am not sure how, but by the grace of God people make it through a difficult diagnosis of a child, and I am just talking about a bad week here. The grace of God can get each of us through our doosey situations.
With a humble and very human heart here are a couple of things that happened to help turn around my doosey of a week, that could quite easily become a doosey month and year….
- Remember who you are. I think sometimes we forget and begin to let the situation define us. We think ” I am a bad parent, friend, person,” and those thoughts float into our heads. I literally make a word document and write out who I am beginning with I am a child of God.
- Have someone you love remind you who you are. Do not ask them to go through the situation and validate your position on a subject. Just ask them to tell you what your strengths are and why they love you. This is fun when my kids and Ron do this, follow up with a warm hug and it is good medicine.
- Take the problems apart. Ask yourself what you can do about each one. I have a planner pad from plannerpad.com and you can schedule and plan out projects. So let’s say for example you had a really rough IEP meeting for your daughter (which I did) and they had all this overwhelming information and things we have to do. It was emotionally charged and so I could not think straight. I will plot out when I will send the teachers the paper work I have to do. I will at least feel like I did something to tackle the problem.
- Do something good for you. So Saturday morning I could have quite easily had some tea stayed in my jammies and eaten a plethora of gluten free brownies. Instead I called my Mom and we took Annya and my niece to garage sales, shopping and then downtown for pets and pumpkins. It was a really fun day. Sometimes you have to fight through the feeling of isolation and brooding. I also remodeled and painted my bathroom. Better to use that energy for good than to feed your thoughts.
- Get in the word of God. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, He has all kinds of ways to help. I love corporate worship, worship music, good preaching. There is a Bible called the Message Version which almost cracks me up sometimes. For example you can go online and Google Bible Gateway, choose the message version and type in trouble. I like going to the Psalms.
[ A David Psalm ] When I call, give me answers. God, take my side! Once, in a tight place, you gave me room; Now I’m in trouble again: grace me! hear me!
Remember this is what I do when I am stressed. Give me grace here from the scholars about the Message vs the King James LOL
- Journal. If you really need to get crabby, sad, or be hysterical try journaling. I know experts say to let it all out, but I write it like I know someone is going to read it someday. No need to be hurtful and keep it about how you feel not how you have been wronged. That does not help anyone.
- Ask yourself “What can you do?” People too often focus on the problem (me included) and not on the opportunity attached to the problem. The Bible is full of sunshine and happy stories… oh wait it is not. It is full of imperfect people making a bunch of mistakes who have problems and then leaning on the Lord.
I know some of my last week will spill over to this week and some of it may be spilling for a couple of weeks. Hope is a beautiful thing. Just the faith of a mustard seed will be rewarded said Jesus. I am stronger and wiser for my doosey week. It may just be preparing me for what God has ahead and in store for me.
I would have never thought when I started JE that we would be where we are today and by the grace of God, He will lead me, my family and my company onward and upward day by doosey day!
Hope your week is blessed and pleasant.